Know Your Lube

Gabrielle Moore has some good tips about sex toys. She recommends that one “know your lube” before purchasing. You should decide exactly why you need lube before heading out to the store. Since she pays writers lots of money to write her stuff, I’m just going to quote from her notes:

“It may seem like the vast selection of lubrication available at your local sex toy store is complicated solely for the sake of making your life more difficult. You might be surprised to discover that the many different kinds of lubes available serve a wide range of purposes!

“Different purposes?” you ask. “Isn’t lube just for… well, lubrication?”

Well of course all those fine lubes are designed to smooth out your midnight ride, but did you know that certain lubes can put holes in your condoms, or that others can cause your favorite sex toys to melt or warp? Were you aware that some lubes are great for anal while others are best for male masturbation?

Who knew? Well I did, of course, and that’s why you love me isn’t it?

Lubrication comes in three standard varieties, with a few extra twists at the end: silicone, water, and oil… plus those warming, tingling, and numbing kinds.

Slick, Sexy Silicone

Silicone lube is great for use with condoms, and excellent for both vaginal and anal sex. It is usually very long-lasting without the tendency to gum up and get sticky like oil-based lubes. It can run from a thin liquid to a thick gel, but most often falls somewhere in between.

Be very careful using this with any sex toys! Silicone toys, which are among the safest and most hypoallergenic variety, are not compatible with silicone lube. The combination can cause degradation of the toy, so be sure to carefully cover it up with a condom if you don’t have any other lubrication options!

Wet, Wild Water

Water based lubricant is the most versatile of the three groups. It can be used with condoms, with toys of any variety, and is appropriate for vaginal, anal and manual sexual stimulation of just about any kind. Some varieties of water-based lube can be quite long-lasting, but generally speaking these liquids will absorb into the skin during use. For this reason, you will likely need to reapply during extended use, and you should be extra careful about buying a brand made with quality, natural and/or organic ingredients.

While water-based lubes tend to be the thinnest of the three varieties, certain other ingredients can be added to create gels and other thicker substances. Read your ingredient lists carefully!

Oil & (Oil-based) Lube

Oil-based lubes can be longer lasting than water-based, but they also have a tendency to absorb through the skin, especially if they are made from natural, edible oils. They are more likely to come in thicker creams and can be great for anal sex because of this natural staying power.

Oil-based lubricants are not condom safe and should never be used with latex toys or sex gear. If you are enjoying some skin on skin contact though, natural oils make wonderful lubricants for tantric sexual encounters, because they can also be used as body massage oils, bath oils, even to scent the room! Coconut oil, cacao butter, avocado, and even regular kitchen olive oil make great lubes in a pinch. Be sure to choose the most natural, organic source possible and be very careful about fragrance. Just because something smells nice enough to scent your bedroom doesn’t mean it’s appropriate for your lover’s skin, especially in her most sensitive spots! If you aren’t sure, refer back to the “spot test” and do a bit of research about essential oils before creating your signature blend.

Special Features

Warming, cooling, or numbing lubricants are typically water-based but can come in any variety. If you want an “edible” lube, try to pick one made with the most natural ingredients, and avoid silicone at all costs, as it is known to cause stomach upset and GI distress.

Sensational lubricants can be over-stimulating for some, so like any other bath or body product, be sure to test it on the inside of the wrist first to gauge any possible allergic reaction. Putting hot or cold substances directly onto the genitals can cause some serious discomfort, especially when the product is difficult to wash away, so be careful! Most importantly, don’t use numbing lube for anal sex, especially if you are new to it and not sure how to enjoy yourself without hurting your partner. Numbing only prevents her from feeling pain that you might be inflicting. Pain happens for a reason, so don’t cop out and mask the problem just so you can have a good time. If you can’t do something without harming your partner, you shouldn’t be doing it at all.”

First Sex With Bethany Part 3

 

My lips met hers, and my cock made contact with her pussy. I reached between us and made only a slight adjustment to get my cock into position at the entrance to her pussy. Immediately I began entering her, as if her pussy was drawing me in. I pushed gently, once again savoring the feel of sliding into her pussy, savoring the feel of her muscles throbbing against my cock.

Quick though? Simply not in my vocabulary when it comes to sex. I would do my best though. And I did. I managed to get my body to accept her pleasure and not last much more than ten minutes.

I began thrusting into her. She told me to go as fast and hard as I wanted. I smiled a delicious and ready to take her smile. I replied, “how about I go as hard as you want instead?” I gave her what she asked her. I pounded into her body. I drove into her so hard that I was pushing her ass down into the mattress with every thrust. I could feel her pussy squeezing my cock tighter and tighter every time I thrust into her. I could feel her fingernails scratching into my arms as she got closer and closer to a huge orgasm.

It hit her, and it hit her as hard as my body hit hers with ever thrust. She strained not to scream when she came on my cock. Her entire body tensed and shook and throbbed with the release of her orgasm.

Now I had what I wanted. I wanted to feel her cum before I would let me cum. I held myself in place and just let her catch her breath. As her trembling subsided, I began moving slowly, focusing on the feel of her pussy rubbing against my cock. Slowly I increased my speed. Moving just a little faster, and changing the way my cock pushed into her, causing her pussy to press against me in different ways with each thrust.

The walls of her wet pussy sliding against my cock pushed me to orgasm. I could feel it building. My body growing more tense in that incredible way. The way that says I will have a great release when my orgasm hits. The way that says my cum will explode out of my cock in several incredible spurts.

I smiled with the pleasure, before the tension turned my face to an expression of pleasure. The point of no return overcame me. I still held out, trying to keep from cumming just yet. It was no use though. The orgasm could not be denied at this point. No matter what I did, no matter what she did, and no matter what happened, I was going to cum.

I came, and I came hard. I thrust deep into her pussy. I pushed hard against his clit, and forced my throbbing cock deep into her. Bethany came with me. I could feel her pussy throbbing around my cock. The muscles of her pussy milking my cum out of me. Once again it lasted forever. The throbbing of my cock, the delicious feelings coursing through my entire body and once again it ended much too soon.

I relaxed and let my weight rest on Bethany. She accepted me and held me. Even though we had only moments before we needed to get up and get dressed. She held me and let me catch my breath, and let my trembling muscles subside to normal.

After a couple of minutes to catch my breath, we were up and getting dressed. Smiling at each other, stopping to touch and caress at moments. Then we held each other again kissed before leaving the bedroom.

So why am I a dope? That is what Zoey called me after I talked with her about this encounter. I explained to Zoey how Bethany and I were not going to have sex because it was the first meeting and not enough time. She told me I was a dope. I explained that even though Bethany and I kissed, and I kissed her neck, that didn’t mean it was going to end in sex. Once again, Zoey called me a dope. Why? Because she knew before Bethany came to my house that I was going to have sex with her. When she heard me talk about kissing Bethany’s neck, that it was all over and sex was definitely going to happen. I was a dope because I didn’t realize this.

I did talk to Bethany about that night later. She admited that she was ready and wanting to have sex with me the night she met me. She told me that she said we were not going to have sex because she wanted to make sure I would be respectful of her. I was. Of course, I admitted to her that if I had wanted to have sex with her, and she had told me that, then I would have put in the effort to change her mind so that she would want to have sex with me.

Anyway. I’m a dope.