Are You the One in 100 that Has a High Sex Drive?

If there’s one thing that we can all agree on, it’s that men are a bunch of uncontrollably horny animals who want sex. Now. I mean, that’s what society has taught us.

Not trying to be a copycat or anything – but, I ran across this article on the negatives to having a high sex drive and simply had to re-post it here.

They say finding a sexually insatiable woman is like finding a unicorn in the wild, but there are a lot of unicorns out there. Surprise! Women aren’t always the chaste, pure creatures we’ve been asked to be. But what happens when we’re too horny? Sometimes it’s a downright struggle.

1. We have trouble finding a partner who can keep up.

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One of the biggest struggles with having a high sex drive is finding someone with a synced libido. Mismatched libidos can be the straw that literally breaks the camel’s back. We’re no stranger to meeting someone, liking them and then realizing that they have the endurance of a tortoise or the inclination of a 70-year-old man.

2. We always have to initiate.

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There’s nothing wrong with a strong woman who goes after what she wants, but when you’re always the one who has to initiate it starts to get old.

3. Our partners can get lazy.


When you’re usually the one initiating, your partner can get lazy and think that you’re just always ready to get down. They might just wait until you start coming on to them rather than stepping up and making us feel wanted. It’s a problem.

4. We get rejected.


Contrary to popular belief, men really don’t want sex 24/7, so when you want sex three times a day and get turned down twice, it starts to sting. Why would any man every reject my sexual advances? It’s definitely not the sexiest feeling ever.

5. We can’t always get what we want.

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Many people believe that women can “catch a dick whenever we want,” in the parlance of ever-classy Amy Schemer. But sometimes, it’s not that easy. If you’re single and want casual sex, you have to worry about STD’s, pregnancy, jerks and all the other unsexy parts of sex. We usually just end up having a solo session rather than going through the trouble.

6. If we want something done, we have to do it ourselves.


If we can’t get satisfaction from our partners, we do it ourselves. Solo love has never been a bad thing — it makes us masters of our domain, and if we don’t know what we like how are going to tell others to do it to us? We’re no stranger to the local sex shop, and we’ve got at least one or two vibrators in a neon color. We take self-love to a new level and we’re totally happy with spending a Friday night alone.

7. We’re always the Samantha Jones of our friend group.

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All of your friends have SO unoriginally deemed you the “Samantha of the group” and think your sex life is just beyond. They just don’t get how you can have so much sex. And you’re all like, “How are you not?” (but you’re definitely don’t say that out loud). You are, though, always giving your friends sex advice and telling them to new things to try in bed.

8. Society tries to shame us.

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And when you become the Samantha of the group, that can often lead to slut-shaming, which is so not cool. Society will try to tell you that you’re wrong for being openly sexual or even wanting sex at all. You’re constantly torn between owning your sexuality and not wanting to deal with judgment.

9. Men are confused by us.


Most men wishing for a girl who wants to have sex all day will probably get tired (and chafed) real quick, no matter how much they brag to their dude friends. Either way, we have no problem being open about our sexual appetite, and we know what we want. Some men will find it extremely hot and others can find it extremely intimidating.

10. We’re turned on by everything.


Your boyfriend puts his hand on your leg? Instant lagoon. Linger on a hug for too long? It’s like, are we doing this or what? It doesn’t take much. Sometimes it even bothers you.

Condom Electrifies Penis

The main detractor of condoms is that they decrease sensation in the penis, sometimes even making it difficult to perform. So, if a condom didn’t decrease sensation, there wouldn’t be much of a reason to avoid using it and not practicing safe sex.  That’s the direction where the creator of the “Electric Eel” is going in.

Andrew Quitmeyer has developed an open source digital condom that delivers a  mild electric stimulation to the wearer’s penis. He named it after the electric eel (from the ocean) – that also shocks people and other fish.  Only this eel delivers a pleasurable shock!

The current prototype is built with a conductive fabric and Lilypad microcontroller.  A small battery sends a small shock through the bottom of the condom in order to provide stimulation to the underside of the penis.

The electric currents are manipulated by a microcontroller connected to the condom and operated by the user, or by “various Internet APIs” accessed from a mobile device. Men would get to determine the exact stimulation that they want.  Sounds like fun to me and it would give safe sex an upgrade.

The development team have personally tested the Electric Eel themselves. The campaign is only in very early stages.  It was an Indiegogo project last February (2014) and if you paid them $350 or more, you would get a handmade electric eel. Looks like they didn’t reach their goal of $10,000.  (They only raised $1,750.)

That is a real shame because I think that it would definitely encourage more men to volunteer to wear protection.  Men are acting like big babies about getting their penis shocked right now.  But, I bet that it will become more traditional in a few years.  I know from personal experience that an electric vibrator is essential to my sanity.  Guys are just too chicken to explore the parameters of ecstasy.

There’s A New Sex Game In Town

Tenga CEO, Tsuneki Sato said, “I think in the future, the virtual REAL  will become more real than actual real sex.”  He went to the Motherboard’s office to demonstrate the “future of masturbation,” as he put it. “That’s our slogan,” he said jokingly.

He put Senior Editor, Brian Merchant – from into a pair of VR goggles, where a female avatar was bent over the side of the bed and a rendering of Tenga’s sex tube protruding from the screen where the er, gun would typically be in a first person shooter.

Brian was super embarrassed and surprised at how effective this damn game was. They maneuvered the robot arm so it was adjacent to his pelvis. If he  pushed the arm with his hips, sure enough, the phallic cone responded onscreen, thrusting inward. The machine in turn responded to the action on screen too, generating resistance.

Hmmm.  Sounds interesting to me!  Would def want to check this machine out. Can’t wait until they make them for the fairer sex, too.

Here’s how the tech works: The software, which was designed for Tenga by the Japanese erotic game developer Illusion, was crafted for the Oculus Rift, which an aspiring virtual sex participant then straps onto his head. The program interfaces with a Novint Falcon, a haptic device designed to replace the mouse for PCs that became popular with gamers because it can respond to gunfire in first person shooters.

This is from Wikepedia:

The Falcon has removable handles, or grips, that the user holds onto to control the Falcon. As the user moves the grip in three dimensions … the Falcon’s software keeps track of where the grip is moved and creates forces that a user can feel, by sending currents to the motors in the device.” So as you move your hand around the grip, the Falcon responds accordingly. “The Falcon’s sensors can keep track of the handle’s position to sub-millimeter resolution, and the motors are updated 1000 times per second (1 kHz), giving a realistic sense of touch. The surfaces of virtual objects feel solid, and can have detailed textures applied to them.

Tenga is trying to give “detailed textures” new meaning. The company rigged its masturbation aid so that it’s held in place by the Falcon’s claw, then programmed software to respond to the sex simulation onscreen. The “game” consists of a 3D-rendered woman in schoolgirl attire, who is either bent over a bed or kneeling before the “player.” As the avatar in virtual reality moves, so does the Falcon—and so does the Tenga sex tube. Clothing is optional in the VR and out.

Digital sex will eventually become the reality.  Read the whole article at Motherboard and dream on.