I enjoy receiving oral sex. My favorite way to get a blow job is fairly normal for most men.
First of all, there is no ONE way to receive oral sex. When I was younger and a gentle breeze was enough to get me aroused maybe one way was enough. But I am quite evolved past that point. After a certain amount of time and interaction, there are scars on the inside as well as pleasant memories. Both of those combine to make me into something new and unique and no longer the same as I was as a teenager.
Be into it. Seriously. Don’t treat giving a man oral sex as a favor to him. If you don’t enjoy it, or you are not really into it, it will show. Treat it is as something you really do want to do. As something that arouses you, makes you wetter and hotter. Revel in the power you have over him through the attention focused mostly on one part of his body. Whatever it is that works for you, that makes you enjoy giving oral sex, then open yourself to that and let it show to the man you are sucking.
Don’t be a porn star about it. Maybe that works for some guys, but not me. Porn is fun to watch, but it comes across as so fake. I don’t want fake in my sex life. I think there are very few people who would ever say they want sex to be fake in some way (toys may be excluded from that statement).
About technique. There are three things that generate the most sensation for me when receiving oral (all of this is pre-orgasm). The first is slickness. The more slippery your mouth and my skin become, the more I notice and enjoy what is happening. If your mouth becomes dry, the sensation becomes rougher and less and enjoyable to me.
The second thing is depth. I’ve been told (many times) that I am well endowed, and I also know I have been deep throated (but only one person really did that). It isn’t a contest, it is just what you enjoy and testing your limits. Whatever you do, don’t push past your limit. Getting sick at this time really would kill the mood. I am not sure if some guys enjoy the gagging thing or not, but I know I don’t.
If I see a video where the giver is gagging herself on the male actor, I get totally turned off and tune out the video. It is just that bad to me. But I do very much enjoy having as much of my cock inside of the warm and welcoming mouth as possible. One thing that I have noticed helps is using your hand at the base of the cock. Let your fingers get wet so they slide up and down the shaft while your lips slide up and down the shaft and when I close my eyes I can hardly tell where one begins and one ends.
The third thing is the position of the tongue. For me there is only one side of my cock that is truly sensitive to the feeling of the tongue rubbing against it. If I am laying on my back, and my partner is positioned between my legs where she can look up my body to see me, then her tongue is going to hit that side. The ridge the goes up and down the entire shaft and also happens to be where one can feel my cum when it travels up the shaft. I have had many an orgasm when the mouth covered my cock from other angles (my second favorite is 69). I don’t have to have it this way, this is one way that I really like it.
Swallowing? Spitting? It really doesn’t matter to me. But it does make a difference if the orgasm happens in the mouth or if the mouth is pulled away. I think that makes a difference for everyone. If you are a woman, imagine a man is sucking on your clit and the moment your orgasm starts, he pulls his mouth away. If the moment was built up properly, you’ll still have your orgasm, but it won’t be the same or have the same intensity. Does that mean you should let a man cum in your mouth no matter what? Nope, refer back to the paragraph about getting sick. If you honestly can’t handle it, then don’t do it.
Ok. I hope you enjoyed my favorite way to get a blow job. Of course there is still more to it than this. The main things I wanted to stress were getting into the mind aspect, and honestly enjoying it. After that, there are little things that vary from guy to guy, and learning each man’s likes and dislikes just takes a little time and practice.